Many women find pregnancy to be a time of elation and joy, something that connects them with their partner in a way that nothing else could.
However, many women also find that it forces them to think about the world and their lives in a way they never did. You find yourself rearranging your priorities, and suddenly the stability of your partner becomes of the utmost importance. You may find during this time that your spouse doesn't have the same epiphany. Or, you might decide that the abusive relationship you are in is no longer one you are willing to tolerate.
Our Birmingham divorce lawyers know of many cases wherein a pregnancy causes a woman to see the marriage in a new light – and not necessarily a favorable one. In contemplating a future that is best for your child, you may find that does not involve your current marriage.
While some of your family and loved ones may question the wisdom of your decision, you must trust that you know what is best for you and your new baby's future.
And actually, it's not so uncommon as you might think. The Huffington Post recently highlighted the phenomenon in a recent article, spotlighting a number of celebrities who had divorced while pregnant. Those included:
- Denise Richards and Charlie Sheen;
- Songstress Kelis and Rapper Nas;
- Christina Milian and The Dream;
- Ginny Cha and Tiki Barbar;
- Weston Cage and Nikki Williams;
Chances are, though, many of these individuals had plenty of their own resources on which to fall back when they made the choice. The fact is, striking out on your own at any point can be daunting. Doing so while you are pregnant comes with its own long list of challenges and considerations.
That doesn't mean you aren't doing the right thing. It just means that, more than most, you will need to invest time in appropriate planning.
Your first step should be to meet with an experienced divorce lawyer. We would recommend doing this before you actually break the news to your spouse. This will help you take stock of your financial landscape in order to explore all of your options.
Whereas before, you may have been able to make a relatively clean break, your pregnancy may complicate matters, as you will now also need to begin thinking about how you will arrange child support, visitation and the like. All of this can be handled as part of the larger divorce agreement.
Even if your spouse has expressed very little desire to stay involved in the life of your child, he is still obligated to pay to financially support that child. You too may be entitled to alimony spousal support – at least temporarily – depending on the circumstances of the marriage.
You are no doubt experiencing a roller coaster of emotions. It's natural to be overwhelmed by pregnancy, regardless of whether you are contemplating divorce. Planning your actions methodically will help both you and your baby in the long run. Your stress levels can directly impact the health of your unborn child, which is why it's important to seek out an attorney who will help you shoulder that burden and make your case a priority.
If you are seeking a divorce in Birmingham, contact Family Law Attorney Steven Eversole at (866) 831-5292.
Pregnant and Divorcing? You're Not Alone. Aug. 14, 2013, Staff Report, The Huffington Post