Birmingham Divorce Attorney Update: When Divorcing in Alabama, What should You Tell Your Kids

Posted by Steven D. Eversole | Jan 21, 2010 | 0 Comments

How much information is too much information? Going through a divorce in Alabama can be a difficult journey. Regardless of whether you live in Mobile, Birmingham, Huntsville or any of the hundreds of cities and towns across the state, the subject of divorce or legal separation can be a minefield. Spouses who are splitting up have a hard enough time discussing details with family and friends, but what of the children? How much should you share with them, if anything?

As a Birmingham Divorce Attorney practicing throughout Alabama, I have seen it all when it comes to separation and divorce. I feel the heartbreak and sense the hard feelings that can arise during this kind of life-changing event. But my knowledge and years of experience have given me the tools to help my clients make it through one of the toughest times of their life.

For sure, one of the most difficult aspects of divorce is the effect it can have on children. Divorce can be extremely trying especially where kids are involved. In many instances, my clients confide in me by asking how they should break the news to their children. Quite often, they don't even know how they should act or behave toward their kids once a divorce has been finalized.

Of course, it can be difficult to take your children's needs into account during the process of a divorce in Alabama. There are many and varied aspects to the process including Spousal support, division of assets, and guardianship.

If you are considering divorce, or know someone who is going through or contemplating such an action, you may want to keep the following items in mind regarding the younger members of the household. Children need and have the right to the following, especially in times of family upheaval:

— Being free of the conflict between the parents

–Developing and maintaining an independent relationship with each parent

— Not having to take over the parental responsibility for making custody and/or visitationdecisions

— Not being expected or forced to take sides with, defend, or lessen the value of either parent
— Being guided, taught, supervised, disciplined and nurtured by each parent, without interference from the other parent

— Spending time with each parent, regardless of whether or not financial support is given

— Having a personal sleeping area and space for possessions in each parent's home

— Being physically safe and adequately supervised when in the care of each parent

— Having a stable, consistent and responsible child care arrangement when not supervised by the parents

— Developing and maintaining meaningful relationships with other significant adults, as long as these relationships do not interfere with or replace the children's primary relationship with their parents

— Expecting that both parents stay informed about medical, dental, educational and legal matters, unless such disclosure would prove harmful to the child

— Participating in age-appropriate activities so long as these activities do not significantly impair their relationship with either parent

If you need professional legal advice on divorce, child custody or any other area of family law, an experienced family law and divorce attorney is your best bet to setting your life on a new and happier course. An experienced and compassionate attorney will make a world of difference for you and your kids.

About the Author

Steven D. Eversole

J.D., Samford University's Cumberland School of Law, Birmingham, Alabama B.A., University of Alabama, Tuscaloosa, Alabama


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