Divorcing in Alabama? Don’t Forget Your Children’s Needs

Posted by Steven D. Eversole | May 01, 2009 | 0 Comments

As a Birmingham Divorce Attorney, I have seen the good and the bad when it comes to divorce in Alabama. I know the heartbreak and hard feelings that can arise during life-changing events such as separation and divorce. My knowledge and experience give me the tools to help clients through those roughest of times.

One thing that makes my job both difficult and rewarding is the children.Divorce is very trying especially when kids are involved, and I've had many clients confide in me that they didn't know how to break the news to their children, or even how to behave toward their kids once all was said and done. But youngsters are resilient, and if anything, parents must remember that children, as members of the family, have rights and deserve your respect.

It is sometimes hard to take into account a child's needs amidst all the other aspects of a divorce, such as division of assets, spousal support andguardianship. Therefore, if you are considering divorce, or know someone who is going through or contemplating such an action, you may want to keep the following list in mind regarding the younger members of the household. Kids need and have the right to the following, especially in times of family upheaval:

  • Being free of the conflict between the parents
  • Developing and maintaining an independent relationship with each parent
  • Being free from having to take over the parental responsibility for making custody and/or visitation decisions
  • Being free from having to take sides with, defend, or lessen the value of either parent
  • Being guided, taught, supervised, disciplined and nurtured by each parent, without interference from the other parent
  • Being financially supported by both parents, regardless of how much time is spent with each parent
  • Spending time with each parent, regardless of whether or not financial support is given
  • Having a personal sleeping area and space for possessions in each parent's home
  • Being physically safe and adequately supervised when in the care of each parent
  • Having a stable, consistent and responsible child care arrangement when not supervised by the parents
  • Developing and maintaining meaningful relationships with other significant adults, as long as these relationships do not interfere with or replace the children's primary relationship with their parents
  • Expecting that both parents will follow through with the child care plan, honoring specific commitments for scheduled time with the children
  • Expecting that both parents stay informed about medical, dental, educational and legal matters concerning the children, unless such disclosure would prove harmful to the children
  • Expecting that their parents will consider any special needs (developmental, mental, emotional or physical) they might have when arranging a child care plan
  • Participating in age-appropriate activities so long as these activities do not significantly impair their relationship with either parent

Should you need professional legal advice on divorce, child custody or any other area of family law, we at Eversole Law are ready, willing and able to help. We have the expertise and compassion to guide you through this difficult time.

About the Author

Steven D. Eversole

J.D., Samford University's Cumberland School of Law, Birmingham, Alabama B.A., University of Alabama, Tuscaloosa, Alabama


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